Ego is usually a mask for a lack of self-love. It’s a type of defense mechanism. We use it to protect ourselves. It can keep us in power, shut out vulnerability, and keep our emotions at a comfortable distance. But that is not what happy, fulfilling lives are made of.
Our society tells us ego and self-esteem are the same thing, but they are not.
This book gives you a road map to build self-esteem and cleanse yourself of the destructive nature of ego.
The perfect road map to building self-esteem and cleansing yourself of the destructive nature of ego ... Becoming your own best friend.
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the
world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
Our society has sold us a lie. We have been taught
from an early age that if you have the “right” car, the
“right” label on your shirt, the “right” job, the “right”
number on the scale, then you have esteem. We have
been taught that ego and self-esteem are the same
thing, connected to each other. That all those outside
things make us who we are. And it’s just not true.
“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to
belong to oneself.” ~ Michel de Montaigne
One time, a commercial came on television that
caught my attention. The message was, “Grow more
hair and gain self-esteem!” I thought, “WHAT?! My
self-esteem depends on how many follicles I have??”
I’m sorry to say, but your self-esteem has nothing to
do with how much hair you have on your head.
Self-esteem has to do with how you feel ...
“A self is not something static, tied up in a pretty parcel
and handed to the child, finished and complete. A self is always becoming.”
~ Madeleine L'Engle
An empathic warrior who has overcome many obstacles, Randy isn’t afraid to get in the trenches with his readers. He’ll help you identify—and dig yourself out from—the things keeping you buried or struggling. Randy’s years as a therapist, university administrator, and health promotion expert are grounded in his own journey of personal growth. Randy is a survivor—a survivor of addiction, of self-hatred, and of our often toxic, ego-soaked culture.
Today, Randy is a speaker who helps audiences around the country and the world find their paths in life and learn the self-esteem building skills necessary to be positive, productive, and fulfilled members of society. He has provided memorable keynotes and paradigm-shifting leadership workshops at schools including Notre Dame, Brown, Johns Hopkins and Valencia Community College, among many others. Randy is now dedicating his life to his true passion and helping others to do the same.
Learn more at RandySpeaks.com.