You know how to take care of others...

You’ve always been good at caring for & helping out others. Day to day, you manage to raise your kids and get your work done. With dedication and determination, you are able to keep the peace in your relationships, at least on the surface.

God loves you, that’s for sure, and you try hard to serve others consistently, because isn’t that what we are supposed to do? When a need at church comes up, you often fill it. The other parents in your kids’ class find you easy to get along with; you go along with whatever to just not rock the boat.

Do you know how to take care of you?

Yet, in that rare quiet moment in your house, you realize you are hurting. Loneliness sets in, and you feel unsure of who you are. What you want never seems to matter. When you try saying you are upset, some people close to you say you are too sensitive. Everything wrong is your fault. Every. Single. Time. So, you stop speaking up. You try to be the person everyone else wants, and you constantly fear what others think of you.

Somewhere along the way of life you hit a breaking point. At the end of each day, you feel exhausted, depleted, and invisible to others. People just seem to always want more from you, and you try your best to give it. Although, the people you're close to don't even know the real you. You feel worthless aside from what you provide to others and no one seems to care how you feel.

Is this how it's supposed to be?

Part of you knows there’s more to life than this. God promises us “abundant” life and we are supposed to experience joy in our relationships. Something seems wrong, because other people are happy, when deep down, you are not.

You’ve heard people talk about “boundaries” and “toxic relationships”, but both of those sound very un-Christian to you. God actually gives us examples of how to have healthy relationships. He absolutely doesn’t want you to be invisible and serve others to the point of your own detriment.

You are ready for a new way of living out relationships.

Lonely, tired, and invisible, you are unsure of yourself and the decisions you make. You need to understand what the Bible really says about how we should love others, and how we can expect others to treat us. You need to rediscover your own voice, or maybe claim it in the first place, and know in your heart that you are valuable, and that you do not have to tolerate other people’s toxic behaviors.

You’re positive that if you can understand what God really says, and learn how to apply that to real life, you can escape the drama, have healthier relationships, know yourself better, and truly thrive.

You are ready for a more confident you, rooted in God’s truth, to love others, and to ensure your real value shines.

I’m Katie, and I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor.  I have experience with toxic family members, and struggled for years to tune out the lies those relationships taught me. Thoughts such as "I’m not good enough", "what I want or feel doesn’t matter", and even "I’m worthless because I am a girl". I fought hard for a long time to understand what God actually says about responding to toxic people. I learned to be strongly rooted in my faith, confident in who God made me to be, and to only take responsibility for things that are actually mine to own. Oftentimes, I discovered, the Christian community sends wrong messages, such as we are to always put others first, which means doing whatever other people want. This is not at all how God wants us to behave.

In my efforts to understand God as well as heal from the toxic relationships, I ended up going to Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary for my counseling degree. I got to spend 3 wonderful years studying God’s word and also learning practical people-helping skills.

God has brought me on an incredible journey. I have a fantastic husband who shows me God’s love every day, and three awesome kids.

I created Faithfully Free because I saw a need for Christian women to see God’s word from a clearer lens, and to practice using that truth in the nitty gritty of real, daily life. Toxic people are real, and we are not supposed to just absorb the pain dish out. In fact, when we say no, and set a proper boundary, we are actually loving that toxic person by not allowing their bad behavior to continue – at least with us.

I know how hard relationships can be. I know the pain of feeling invisible, like you don’t matter, and feeling stuck, like you can’t say no or speak up because you’d be a “bad Christian”. I also know that’s a lie. God and I have been through a lot, and I’m stronger and free now. I want you to know that same freedom, to flourish in God’s love for you, and guard yourself from toxic people.

Faithfully Free is best for:

• Women who want more joy in their relationships.
• Women who care too much what others think.
• Women who struggle to say no, even when other’s behavior drains them or hurts them.
• Women who aren’t sure of who they truly are.
• Women who are stuck thinking God says we should allow others to mistreat us or we have to do everything everyone else says.

Faithfully free is NOT for:

• Women in dangerous situations, such as domestic violence or abusive relationships. Please seek professional counseling near you and get the help you need.
• Women with past hurts they have never worked through. If you have had difficult experiences in your past that you’ve never had help recovering from, please seek professional counseling. You aren’t ready to learn these new skills for life going forward until you find healing from the past.

• How much time does the program require?

     The Week 1 teaching videos will be 15-20 minutes.

     The Week 2 Q&A call will be 30 minutes.

     The Week 4 coaching calls will be 30-45 minutes.

     You can spend as much time as you want in the private Facebook group interacting with other members!

• When do the coaching calls take place?

     Calls on Week 2 & 4 will be on Thursdays, starting at 10am EST.

• How does my membership work?

     You will pay monthly through PayPal. With your membership, you have access to all teaching materials and videos on Teachable, as well as the private Facebook group exclusive for Faithfully Free members. You may cancel your subscription at any time.

• Is the group private?

     The Facebook group is private, and access to Teachable is only for group members. However, with participants from all over, Katie cannot guarantee any level of confidentiality.

• How much does a membership cost?

     Your membership costs $55/month.

• How do I access the teaching videos and other resources?

     Once you join Faithfully Free, you will be sent a link to log in to Teachable, the website used to host all the teaching resources.

• Will Katie participate in the Facebook group?

     Yes! Katie will add comments to the Facebook group. However, Katie’s trusted assistant Lauren will be the main moderator of the group.