This membership is for you if you...
I will help you...
Understand your loved one’s drug and alcohol use, why they are using and what they get out of it
Set clear boundaries about what you will and will not accept in terms of your loved one’s drug and alcohol use
Figure out what you can do to make being sober more attractive than being intoxicated
Communicate better with your loved one to reduce conflict
Explore helpful and enabling behaviours
Know what to do when your loved one is intoxicated
I’m Victoria Seed and I help busy, successful women recover from a loved one’s drug or alcohol use.
I understand how hard it is to be in your situation and not know whether how you are handling it is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. You may feel alone. You may not have told anyone about what’s going on.
You may have only just realised your loved one has a problem.
You may not be able to find the help you need that fits you and your situation.
All I can say is that you are doing your best, but I can help you make significant changes to your life.
As well as having lived experience of coping with loved one's addiction, I am a professionally trained teacher, trainer, drug and alcohol practitioner, recovery coach, consultant NLP Practitioner and meditation Instructor. I have helped hundreds of families recover from a loved one’s drug or alcohol use.
I set up the Vesta Approach a few years ago because I wanted to fill a gap for families that would not or could not access local services due to work commitments or other personal reasons. My services are private and confidential. As a professional woman myself and a mother, I have naturally connected with women and have designed my service around them.
This membership has been designed specifically for busy women who cannot go to a group in the evening, or pop out of work during the day for therapy. It is full of value, support and care but is not so demanding of time that you can’t keep up.
Having been a drug and alcohol therapeutic practitioner for many years, specialising in family work, we will be talking about your loved one in a respectful and caring manner.
I don’t believe in ‘tough-love’ I don’t believe in people having to hit ‘rock-bottom’ to stop using or reduce their substance use. I KNOW there is another way.
Come and join me.
I can help
Your monthly membership will give you access to the incredible content you'll find inside.
It is off-Facebook for ultimate discretion.
You can access in your own time.
Turning up to the live sessions would be your only time-commitment, so that you don't miss them (these are currently on Wednesday evenings at 7.30pm).
I'd recommend you pop into the membership every day to keep up to date, join in, post about your progress and learn from others.
Content will be posted Monday-Friday and I will be around to answer any questions then.
You are free to post at any time and please contribute to other people's posts and share the love.
Content will be delivered over a 12 month rolling programme. After 12 months, you decide whether you stay or go.
This is a WOMEN ONLY group.
you will get support from others in the group too!
You are not alone!
A monthly training video and workbook
A monthly Zoom support and action session
A monthly Q&A
A monthly Guest Expert
“After going around in circles for years with my loved one, I really didn’t know or have any confidence that there was anything out there that would help. As I find it difficult to talk to people about the problems I’m having with my son, I was apprehensive about the meeting, however, I really shouldn’t have worried because Victoria helped me to work out a plan and clear my head from all my mixed up emotions. I feel stronger and more confident to follow things through that I was unsure would work. So pleased I took the plunge!”
“I stopped drinking with him. He would open a bottle of port or wine and relentlessly twitch until I had a gap in my glass and he could 'top us up'.Then I stopped buying it in the shopping as I figured he only ever bought alcohol, fags, bread, milk and some wildly impractical lump of meat with no veg to go with it when he did a shop. Then I started refusing to buy it when he gave me the money 'to get some cider while you're at the supermarket'. Then I stopped making excuses to stop people coming over when he was a state.Then I stopped clearing his empty cans and bottles away so he could see them. All when I joined this group."
“Working with Victoria gave me the tools and confidence in the choices I was making even at the point that my alcoholic husband’s behaviour was out of control and I didn’t feel I had anywhere to turn. Living with an addict is a lonely and desperate experience. The programme helped me take a step back and stop trying to protect him from the consequences of his drinking and put mine and my children’s health and mental well-being first. Whilst many professionals tell you it’s your moral duty to do this, they don’t tell you how, which adds more stress to an already difficult situation. As of the middle of June 2020, he was been 120 days sober. I firmly believe that the programme I did with Victoria has been instrumental in his recovery because it gave me the strength to stop enabling his poor behaviour. The tools and techniques I learnt empowered me to stop engaging with and excusing his drinking and not react to his hurtful words and actions. I believe this was the trigger to start his recovery. Whilst it is impossible to predict the future, should he relapse, I know I have the strength and courage to get on with my own life and give my children the stability they deserve because of the skills I practiced with Victoria”