if you're like me, you've gone to seminars, read relationship books and yes, you might have even gone to a therapist or three in hopes of trying to figure out why your relationships keep failing.
For all of my adult life, since college, that was me. I chased many a would-be Forever Love down a rabbit hole only to find myself abandoned and confused, left to ask myself "Why?" A why that followed me from relationship to relationship like toilet paper stuck on the bottom of my shoe.
What I didn't know!
I didn't know that knowledge alone does not fix what's broken. As a result:
What I didn't know caused me to second-guess what I was told about men.
What I didn't know convinced me that this man was different
What I didn't know kept me stuck in a cycle of failed relationships
That's why I created DO YOU SPEAK MALE!
My DO YOU SPEAK MALE Solution is exactly what it took for me to find my way out of that rabbit hole and close it once and for all! It gave me the clarity I needed to understand men so I wouldn't continue to attract unhealthy men and try to reform them by loving them enough.
By understanding a man's Communication, Code, Culture, Context and Conduct, I was able to be true to myself in my relationships and attract healthy love into my life.
The insights and skills that I acquired helped me to show up so that he could recognize me. And more importantly, so I could ultimately recognize him.
Module One focuses on how men and women communicate differently, my husband-tested, husband-approved formula for communicating effectively with a man, navigating "the clash of wills" and how to communicate in a way that a man understands and helps you feel understood.
Module Two focuses on his set of principles that guides him and how it shows up in his relationships with women, navigating "the conflict of allegiances" effectively, when to accelerate the conversation and when to pull back, and how to determine his willingness to make your relationship a priority.
Module Three dives deeply into who a man identifies with and its impact on his intimate relationships, navigating "the conflict of identities" effectively, whom he's accountable to and identifying what anchors him.
Module Four helps you to see through his lens and his perspective on love and relationships, navigating "the conflict of viewpoints" effectively, his psychological needs and socialization and the "old school" man.
Module Five takes all the other components of communication, code, culture and context and applies them to his conduct. It compares and contrasts power and control, what men respect and why you aren't getting it, ways you've contributed to your relationship woes, narcissistic behaviors and the power all women have should she choose to develop it.
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This is more than talking. It's both understanding him and feeling understood by him.
These are his governing principles. His values.
Culture spans how he was raised, traditions, what being a man in America is like, his currency as a man and what it's worth
Context put simply is what he means. It's the meaning behind what he says.
This is about his behavior. Be careful not to let "befriending" cancel out your honest answer.
Has COVID stopped relationships? No! The word on the streets is masked or unmasked men and women are still doing what men and women do! That's why I've taken my message of enoughness to the streets, helping women redefine what makes them enough in their intimate relationships...UPCOMING EVENTS
Endeavoring to amplify your voice, your value and your vision, Season Three of my Enough Factor Podcast will focus on healthy relating. We'll be featuring solo podcasts by yours truly and some dynamic entrepreneurs, thought leaders, and world builders...SUBSCRIBE/LISTEN