This 28 day programme is for you if you want to...
I'll be opening the doors to the private Facebook Group on Wednesday, 10th November for introductions before the group starts on Monday, 15th November.
We will have an opening and closing Facebook live session!
There will be daily posts to comment on/ short tasks/ short videos.
As long as you get chance to log in every day, you'll keep up.
You may want to catch up at weekends, that's entirely up to you (I'd suggest to pop in every day so you can keep up with everyone if you can!)
There will be dedicated support post, so if you're struggling, you can pop a post on and we will help you out.
Content will be delivered daily and I promise it will be short and manageable!
This is a WOMEN ONLY group.
You will get support from others in the group too!
You are not alone!
There will be no...
🚫Waiting for rock-bottom (how long is that gonna take?)
🚫Throwing your loved one on the street
There will be lots of…
A real understanding of addiction and recovery
Exercises on how you can influence a change in your loved one's behaviour
A refocus on YOUR wellbeing
Knowing the strategies you can use to tip the balance, so that being sober is more attractive than being intoxicated
Looking at ways such as disabling enabling and setting healthy boundaries can work for you
Your own family recovery plan
And LOTS more...
I’m Victoria Seed and I help busy, successful women recover from a loved one’s drug or alcohol use.
I understand how hard it is to be in your situation and not know whether how you are handling it is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. You may feel alone. You may not have told anyone about what’s going on.
You may have only just realised your loved one has a problem.
You may not be able to find the help you need that fits you and your situation.
All I can say is that you are doing your best, but I can help you make significant changes to your life.
As well as having lived experience of coping with loved ones problem drinking/drug use, I am a professionally trained teacher, trainer, drug and alcohol practitioner, recovery coach, consultant NLP Practitioner and meditation instructor. I have helped hundreds of families recover from a loved one’s drug or alcohol use.
I set up the Vesta Approach in 2017, because I wanted to fill a gap for families that would not or could not access local services due to work commitments or other personal reasons.
My services are private and confidential. As a professional woman myself and a mother, I have naturally connected with women and have designed my service around them.
This short programme has been designed specifically for busy women who cannot go to a group in the evening, or pop out of work during the day for therapy. It is full of value, support and care but is not so demanding of time that you can’t keep up. It's all handily accessible through Facebook, so you can pop on when you have time.
Having been a drug and alcohol therapeutic practitioner for many years, specialising in family work, we will be talking about your loved one in a respectful and caring manner.
I don't believe in 'tough love'.
I don't believe in people having to hit 'rock-bottom' to stop or reduce their substance use.
I KNOW there is another way.
Come and join me and kickstart your family recovery before the holidays.
I can help
“After going around in circles for years with my loved one, I really didn’t know or have any confidence that there was anything out there that would help. As I find it difficult to talk to people about the problems I’m having with my son, I was apprehensive about the meeting, however, I really shouldn’t have worried because Victoria helped me to work out a plan and clear my head from all my mixed up emotions. I feel stronger and more confident to follow things through that I was unsure would work. So pleased I took the plunge!”
“I stopped drinking with him. He would open a bottle of port or wine and relentlessly twitch until I had a gap in my glass and he could 'top us up'.Then I stopped buying it in the shopping as I figured he only ever bought alcohol, fags, bread, milk and some wildly impractical lump of meat with no veg to go with it when he did a shop. Then I started refusing to buy it when he gave me the money 'to get some cider while you're at the supermarket'. Then I stopped making excuses to stop people coming over when he was a state.Then I stopped clearing his empty cans and bottles away so he could see them. All when I joined this group."
“Working with Victoria gave me the tools and confidence in the choices I was making even at the point that my alcoholic husband’s behaviour was out of control and I didn’t feel I had anywhere to turn. Living with an addict is a lonely and desperate experience. The programme helped me take a step back and stop trying to protect him from the consequences of his drinking and put mine and my children’s health and mental well-being first. Whilst many professionals tell you it’s your moral duty to do this, they don’t tell you how, which adds more stress to an already difficult situation. As of the middle of June 2020, he was been 120 days sober. I firmly believe that the programme I did with Victoria has been instrumental in his recovery because it gave me the strength to stop enabling his poor behaviour. The tools and techniques I learnt empowered me to stop engaging with and excusing his drinking and not react to his hurtful words and actions. I believe this was the trigger to start his recovery. Whilst it is impossible to predict the future, should he relapse, I know I have the strength and courage to get on with my own life and give my children the stability they deserve because of the skills I practiced with Victoria”