Tap into the power of Marital Intimacy

With Miriam Davidson

“Intimacy was great when we were newlyweds, but now, with the chaos of daily living, something’s gotten lost.”

“It feels like my husband and I are on different planets when it comes to this stuff. Plus, whenever one of us is in the mood, the other is too tired.”

“I just don’t enjoy intimacy at all, no matter what we try. I basically do it for my husband. Could it be that something’s wrong with me?”

“Ever since I had my baby, having relations feels totally different than it did before.”

“I can’t seem to keep distracting thoughts out of my head during intimacy. Help!”

“It takes me forever to get aroused. How can I speed things up a little?”

“Can someone please tell me I’m normal?”

Sexual intimacy is complex and deeply personal. Desires and needs fluctuate throughout married life, and the husband-wife relationship is constantly evolving. So intimacy is—understandably—an area we’re constantly grappling with.

Maybe...

…You’re having trouble getting aroused and/or feeling pleasure during intimacy.

…You feel there is information you’re missing, or questions you have.

…You learned about intimacy as a kallah, but now as a married woman—familiar with the strengths and struggles unique to your marriage—you are trying to put it into practice.

…You and your husband have such different needs when it comes to intimacy, and this is a constant source of tension.

…Your kids are growing up and moving out, and with less people at home, you and your husband are working on rekindling the spark between you.

…You feel you need a booster to put intimacy back into its rightful position at the center of your marriage—the beating heart of your home.


Finding the balance

Jewish intimacy is a topic to be handled with immense respect: with openness and clarity in a context of modesty and sensitivity.

But it’s tricky.

On one hand this is a delicate topic not to be discussed freely with anyone and everyone.

On the other there is often so much misunderstanding and misinformation, and there are so many unanswered questions.


The good news?

This course is designed specifically with this fine balance in mind. It’s a safe, judgment-free space to explore intimacy from a hashkafic, physiological, and psychological lens, getting the clarity and personal tools you need.

Receive sensitive guidance from a professional who gets you, your lifestyle, and your dreams for loving connection.

Join couples from all over the world who have made real changes and are experiencing a deeper level of joy and closeness in their marriage.


In this course you will

  • Gain a deeper understanding of the Torah hashkafah on intimacy (based on our timeless mesorah taught by Chazal)
  • Absorb a healthy, positive outlook on intimacy
  • Get clarity about sexual functioning, arousal and pleasure
  • Understand "his and hers" differences in intimacy—and learn tools to bridge the gap
  • Explore practical ways to create emotional intimacy in marriage
  • Learn tools to “get in the mood” and start enjoying intimacy more
  • Apply the class material to your personal life with exercises and tools
  • Have a chance to get your questions answered

All in a warm, sensitive, professional environment.


Who is this course for?

Growth-minded, frum, married women at any stage who are seeking clarity and tools to help them strengthen their connection with their husband (and themselves!) and make marital intimacy more fulfilling.

Week 1

Soul Connections

Insights of Chazal on the holiness and centrality of Mitzvas Onah; The physical-emotional intimacy connection; a boost in our priorities and focus

Week 2

The Feminine Role in Intimacy

Fitting intimacy in to the picture of a Jewish woman’s daily life; lessons from our Imahos; a proactive, realistic approach

Week 3

You Were Made For This!

A frank talk about sexual anatomy and response; the truth about women’s arousal and pleasure; understanding male-female differences in response

Week 4

Bridging the Gap

Overcoming different styles, preferences, and needs in intimacy; Re-igniting the power of touch

Week 5

Embracing Differences

Boundaries that create more bonding potential; nurturing the “you” and the “me” within the “we”

Week 6

When Your Body Says "No"

Addressing common obstacles to intimacy: hormones, pain, pregnancy/postpartum, low desire; practical concerns, practical tools

Week 7

On Again, Off Again: Tools for Transition

Dealing with transitions in your intimate life: Niddah, mikvah night, and the art of shifting gears and getting “in the mood”

Week 8

From "Dialogue" to Heart to Heart

Creating pathways to discuss intimate issues and resolve conflict; communication techniques that enhance emotional and physical intimacy

Week 9

Creating a Culture of Healthy Intimacy

Safety and respect in intimacy; positive body image; teaching children healthy sexual attitudes

Week 10

Tending to the Spark - A Nurtured Marriage

Keeping intimacy alive and healthy during the ups and downs of married life; nurturing the “relational space” so marriage can thrive

Course conclusion

FAQ’s

What is the format of the classes?

This is a 14-week teleconference course comprised of 10 classes + two Q&A’s during the course + two additional Q&A’s after the conclusion of the course. The 10 live classes take place on Wednesdays at 10 a.m. Eastern Standard Time (New York) / 5 p.m. Israel time.

The course starts November 9, 2022 and ends January 25th, 2023, followed by two Q&A’s. This course is structured with two built-in breaks allowing for catch-up, processing, and questions.

You can join the live classes by phone. Access numbers will be provided for whichever country you’re in.

What is the cost of the course?

The cost of the course is $320. An early-bird special of $305 is offered to those who sign up by October 30. Payment is due in full upon registration. If you’d like to pay in two installments, please email simplytogethercourse@gmail.com.

I can’t join live at that time. Will there be recordings?

Yes, you can hear the recorded classes any time. You'll receive a weekly recording to your inbox.

For those without email access who prefer to access the weekly recordings by phone, please do not register via this page; instead, register via Ohel Miriam by calling 845-400-9559 and pressing 3.

Is there any visual material accompanying the course?

Yes. At the start of the course you’ll receive a booklet by email containing the course schedule, class outlines, diagrams and other visual material.

Can I join even though the course is already in progress?

Sure, you can join the course at any time and go at your own pace. I encourage you to pace yourself and listen to one class per week, since each one is packed with info and it’s helpful to give yourself time to process it.

Do you have rabbinical backing?

I have the support and endorsement of HaRav Binyomin Moskovits, Shlita (Rosh Yeshiva, Yeshivas Midrash Shmuel in Shaarei Chessed, Yerushalayim). Halachic / hashkafic shailos in my work are brought to Rabbi Dovid Broch, Shlita (Shaarei Chessed), and Rabbi Dovid Ostroff, Shlita (Har Nof).

In addition, my husband is a chosson teacher who trained under Rabbi Yitzchak Silver from Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim, so I refer to his material as well.

What ages and stages is this course for?

Women married anywhere from one year onward have benefited from this course. One grateful participant recently said: “We’ve been married over 40 years but we’re currently in shanah rishona due to this course!”

Can I contact you with questions?

I welcome your feedback and questions, and I feel that questions are an important part of the learning process.

  • At any time during the course you can email or text me your questions. Twice during the course (following classes 4 and 8) I’ll compile answers to the questions that have come in till then, and you’ll receive a recorded Q&A-only class providing answers to those questions.
  • As a bonus, each week you’ll receive a recording of some of the most common Q&A’s that listeners like you have at that point in the course.
  • At the end of the course, we’ll have two live Q&A classes addressing any questions that remain.

If after the completion of the course you feel you have unanswered questions, you may book a private appointment with me over Zoom.

How is the content different from what I learned as a kallah?

This course is geared for the married woman who is dealing with the realities of married life. Even in the best of marriages, sexual intimacy needs constant reassessment and chizuk as you and your husband move through different stages.

If you are struggling, this course may help you understand practical or emotional blocks that are keeping you from having a healthy and satisfying intimate relationship—and what you can do about it.

It’s my hope that this course helps you, at whatever stage you find yourself, explore your goals, obstacles and inroads to enhanced intimacy.

I’m a kallah teacher. Will this course be helpful for me?

I’ve been privileged to teach a number of kallah teachers in my courses, and while this course is not an official training, they’ve shared with me how much it impacted them personally and enriched their work.

My friend took one of your previous courses. How is this one different?

Over time I’ve expanded the course to address many of the topics and FAQ’s more in-depth. It started as a 5-part course and as of November 2021 is now 10 parts! So while most of the subjects were covered in earlier courses, we spend more time on them and the classes are structured a bit differently.

I took your course and would love to join again! Is there any special rate for second-timers?

Sure, I welcome past participants to the current course. You can join at the reduced rate of $200, please email simplytogethercourse@gmail.com to arrange payment.

My husband suffers from addiction / mental illness. Is this course for me?

This course may be helpful to you if he is receiving treatment. If you and/ or he are in therapy, I suggest you consult with your therapist about whether this course could help your particular situation.

If you and/ or he are not receiving treatment, I don’t recommend you taking this course. Please see how you can address the problem together or seek professional support for yourself in the meantime.

There’s abuse in my marriage. Can your course help?

If there’s any kind of spousal abuse (emotional/ verbal/ physical) occurring in your marriage, you’re not alone, but do not sign up for this course. Instead, please seek professional support. You can call Shalom Taskforce at 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) or text “START” to 88788. In Israel, call Tahel at *2511.

I’m a survivor of sexual trauma. Will this course be helpful for me?

Due to the sensitive content of our classes, anyone may find them triggering, particularly if you have any kind of trauma in your background.

Depending on where you are in your healing journey, this course may be helpful to you. If you are currently in therapy, please consult with your therapist and decide accordingly.

If you’ve never addressed your background, I encourage you to find a way to do so as a first step before learning about intimacy in this context.

Simply Together Course

$320

Hi, I’m Miriam Davidson—wife, mother of six ka”h, individual & couples therapist and intimacy educator.

Born and raised in Boston, MA, I moved to Eretz Yisrael in 2005. I received my degree from the PATH Center for Counseling and Psychotherapy in Israel, with specialty certification as a sex counselor and educator. I’m an IFS practitioner certified by the Israeli Institute for IFS (Internal Family Systems). I worked as an intern therapist at Milam (Family Counseling Center, a division of the Israeli Health Ministry) and I am also a certified JME Kallah Teacher.

In my counseling and teaching, I’ve witnessed the central role marital intimacy plays in every couple’s life—and how knowledge, tools and support can make all the difference. It’s my honor to help you tap into your innate capacity for growth, healing, and authentic connection.

I feel blessed to live and grow with my family in Yerushalayim.

Contact us

If you have further questions about the course please email: simplytogethercourse@gmail.com or use the form below.

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